Staying Hydrated 

There are so many things that we are supposed to do to keep ourselves happy and healthy for as long as we possibly can. Eat fruits & veggies. Exercise daily. Take vitamins. Hydrate. The list seems pretty simple, but lets face it, we’re all too lazy to be doing this every single day. Some people have turned it into a lifestyle and that is awesome for them! But for people like me, and by people like me I’m talking about people living the sloth life; we don’t do that. 

The only thing I really do, is keep myself hydrated daily. I bought myself a 32 oz cup from Target that I try and refill at least 3 times a day. I would have to say its easier for me to drink that amount daily because I am at my desk working for 9 hours a day. Sometimes I don’t even notice that I have drank so much water, well not until I’m running to the bathroom trying not to pee my pants.

I’ve noticed from me drinking so much water, it has really helped improve my skin. A few months ago my skin was so bad, not only did I have terrible acne (at 27 years old!!!) but I also had really dry and flakey skin. It really lowered my self esteem and I think started happening around the time my depression started to escalate. I started the 96 oz of water daily and noticed my skin was staying more hydrated and didn’t flake as often as it used to. I wish I could say just drinking water helped my skin, but it did not. I actually had to go to my doctor to be prescribed something, but we’ll talk more on that later.

If you feel like water is too “boring” for you to be drinking all day, add something to it to give it a different taste. I like to add lemon wedges to my water sometimes to give it a different taste. You can aslo add cucumber, or mint and give it a “fresh” taste. I know there are a lot of detox water recipes out there, but don’t think that’s the only time you need to drink water. Try to drink at least 20 oz a day and slowly work your way up, if you’re not drinking water daily. You will see improvements.

Click On It – Tech Thursday

1. Inexpensive Glasses & Sunglasses 

This site has so many options for glasses, and you can order them with your prescription too! My mom ordered some really cute ones, and some cute prescription sunglasses. Her total came out to around $100! So awesome!

2. Free therapy & counseling 

This website is also an app. I know for some people (like me) talking face to face with people is sometimes difficult. Especially when dealing with personal issues; I tend to keep things to myself. This site has real people you can talk to and is awesome for introverts like myself. 

3. Online Thrift Store for Books 

I am a book nerd but I sometimes don’t always have the funds to buy all the books I  want. This online store has a huge selection of used books for a great price!

4. Crisis and Suicide Help

We all have those moments where we feel like we just can’t go on. Like, life would be better without us. You are not alone. 

5. Leave me alone 

I hate being in crowded areas, this site helps you find places to go in public that are not crowded. Say goodbye to your local Starbucks, and fine a quite little cafe instead. 

Losing My Dad

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As children, we never really think about our parents dying; we think our parents are invincible and going to live forever. Some of us, unfortunately, lose a parent at very young ages. Other’s are lucky enough to have their parents in their lives until they have reached an old age. I was fortunate enough to have my dad in my life for 21 years. I was also not prepared to lose my dad 13 days after I turned 21.

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My dad and I were exactly the same; looks and personality-wise. He used to tell me, “Melis, I’m ugly and you look just like me.” I used to reply, “well at least I’m smarter.” He would always joke around with me, even going as far as to run up and fart on me. But, since we’re so much alike, we would butt heads…A LOT. My dad was a very stubborn man, and I am a very stubborn woman. We had very big tempers that would drive us to have some very big arguments.

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Of course during my teenage angsty years, I felt like anything I did just wasn’t good enough for him. I constantly felt like I was fucking up and not living up to his expectations. I rebelled and was always threatening to leave and never come back. But, now being an adult, I know he meant well and just wanted me to do good in school. He was just being a dad, and it only made sense after I became a parent. I knew my dad loved me with all his heart; I was his little girl after all.

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Losing my dad, was and has been the hardest thing I have ever lived through. It’ll be 6 years on May 13th since he left. It happened so quickly that I honestly thought he was going to pull through. Having to say goodbye broke my heart. I still have trouble accepting the fact that he is gone and never coming back. He was my rock. In my eyes, there was nothing my dad couldn’t do. I still miss him, as much as I missed him since the first day without him.

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While we were saying our goodbyes to my dad in the hospital, I whispered in his ear that it was okay to go. I promised that I would take care of my brother and my mom, and he would have nothing to worry about. I told him we would be okay. My dad was in a medically induced coma when I said this, but after I kissed him on his cheek I looked and saw a tear trickle from his eye. It broke my heart because I knew he was fighting. I knew he didn’t want to leave us. But, the damage was too much for his body to handle.IMG_6368

I think that, even after these years, I am still very angry at what happened. But I also know that certain things in my life would be very different right now. I have grown up a lot since the passing of my father. I can only hope that I continue to make him proud. I miss him like hell. But wherever he is, I know he’s making people laugh with his stupid jokes. I know he’s probably being extra loud when a Dodger game is on. And I know that he is always watching over my son. Screen Shot 2017-05-10 at 8.34.52 PM

I miss you Papa Tom 🖤

Women Who Inspire Me: My Mom

So I know that Wednesday’s are reserved for our “women crushes”, but I thought I would switch it up and change it to women who have inspired me, and continue to inspire me. Considering Mother’s Day is this Sunday, I felt the first woman I should talk about is my own mother.

My mom had me at the tender age of 21. She had been with my dad since they were 16, and got married a few weeks before I blessed their lives. Almost 3 years after I was born, my parents gave birth to my brother (one day after their 3rd wedding anniversary). I have to say, for being a young mom; my mother did one hell of a job raising two kids so close in age.

I remember growing up; it wasn’t always easy for my parents. They had their struggles, their conflicts, and hardships. No matter what though, they always made sure to have the necessities for my brother and I. My mom made sure to take us on little outings whenever she could and (mostly for my brother) bought us little treats whenever we would accompany her to the market. We weren’t spoiled; but she always made sure that “Santa” gave us something off our Christmas wish list and tried to give us our “must haves” on our birthdays.

When I was 21, we lost my dad in a fatal motorcycle accident. It destroyed my mom’s world, and as much as I was grieving; I couldn’t even imagine what she was going through. This was someone who had been in her life for 25 years. There were days she would just lock herself in her room and not talk to my brother or I. We tried our best to keep her positive, but I knew it wasn’t enough. If I had the power, I would have reversed time just for her. 

Now here we are, going on 6 years without my dad and my mom still gets out of bed every morning. I honestly don’t know how she does it, but she likes to credit my brother and I for giving her the strength to get up. Having my son seemed to have brought the light back into her life. As much as I miss my dad, I know if it had been the other way around, I wouldn’t have both my parents today. My dad depended so much on my mom and her strength that I don’t think he would have handled her leaving before him.

My mom does so much for my brother and I, and I honestly don’t know how I could possibly thank her. She is always putting her wants/needs to the side just for us. It makes me very happy that I can honestly say my mom is my best friend. I may not tell her everything, but I know I can talk to her about anything.

I love you mom.

How I Edit for Instagram: VSCO HB2

I’ve had Instagram since the app first came out back in 2011. My feed has gone through so many different changes since I first downloaded the app. It was all about the filters in the beginning, then I wanted the whole picture to fit in the frame, then I only wanted horizontal pictures, then I wanted only pictures from my DSLR, and so on and so on. 

Recently I purchased a Sony a5000 mirrorless camera and have been using that for all my Instagram pictures. I feel it really gives them a cleaner, more crisp look. In addition to that, I edit my photos using the VSCO app. 

For this photo of my dog (Josie is her name) I used the filter HB2. 

I lowered the filter level from +12 to +6. 

Next I raised the Exposure to +2 and the Contrast to +1

Next I raised the Clarity to +1, Sharpen to +3, and Saturation to -1. 

Next I brought the Highlight level to +3, lowered the Temperature to -0.5 (I didn’t want her to lose too much of her color), and the Tint to -1 giving us the final result. 

I hope you enjoyed this little tutorial and I’ll be showing more ways to edit your photos using VSCO, as well as other apps. 

Club 33


If you’re a Disneyland fanatic (like myself), then you know all about the super-secret exclusive club that is inside the park in Anaheim. I heard about Club 33 years ago and would always pass by “the door” in the hopes of seeing someone walking in, or walking out. I had always dreamed about someday having the chance to dine above New Orleans square. Luckily for me, my wish was granted this year for my birthday.

This is the door where you check in for your reservations. All this time I had thought it was the door with the actual “33” sign on it and have passed this door for so many years not even noticing it. Silly me to think they would really have it out there like that, after all, it is a secret club.

We walked out into the foyer and were offered cold towelettes, and some very delicious lavender water. As we waited for our table, I walked around the foyer just soaking in all of its beauty and architecture. I stood there wondering if Walt Disney had felt the feelings I had when he stared at this once the renovations were complete.

We walked up the stairs (the infamous elevator was not in service) and walked through the beautiful entrance into the dining area. Everything was so lovely; paintings, molding, floors, décor, ect.

As we sat for lunch, I opted to order myself a fruity (alcoholic) drink instead of doing the wine meal pairing. I love wine but I am not a skilled wino, and to be honest I mostly drink dessert wines (Stella Rosa FTW). The lunch comes as a four course meal, and I was so nervous I wouldn’t be able to finish everything in one sitting (especially because their bread was AH-MAZINGLY delicious). I had order the Oysters Rockefeller, the asparagus soup, filet mignon, and their chocolate cake for dessert. I also ordered a cappuccino to help wash down the cake and all of its yummy richness. 

The club was nice enough to gift me with a little bag full of macaroons and chocolates, and a birthday card signed by all of the staff working that day. I had such an amazing experience that I truly did not want to leave. The staff was so friendly, and the atmosphere was so different compared to the hustle and bustle of Disneyland. I am close to considering putting myself on the 15 year wait list and just saving my money for the membership. Or I can just cross my fingers and hope to marry a millionaire…kidding. It was really wonderful, and if that’s the only time I ever go, at least I have the pictures and memories.

*A special thank you to my Niño and his wonderful wife for making this happen. And a very big thank you to their friends for getting us the reservation. 

To quote Rapunzel from the movie Tangled, “BEST. DAY. EVER!”

Fake Tales of San Francisco

This year for my birthday, I decided I wanted to spend the weekend in a different city. I had contemplated on just going to Vegas, but I’ve done the Vegas thing and I had my heart set on visiting San Francisco. This would be my first time ever going up to Northern California, so I was super excited and I was making the trip with some of my favorite people. 

Since this was my first time visiting the city, I wanted to do all the “tourist-y” things and see all of the iconic landmarks in San Francisco. The Painted Ladies and the Mrs. Doubtfire house were the top things on my list. Being a 90s kid I grew up with Robin Williams being in all my favorite childhood movies. As I got older I learned to love his more serious roles as well and just admired him as an actor. When he passed away, I sat on my couch in disbelief and cried. He will always have a big place in my heart and I am thankful for all the laughs he gave us. 

The weather was amazing! Being from Southern California, it was a big change in the Bay Area. It was still warmer than I had expected, but talking to the locals it sounded like we had chosen a very good weekend to visit. To be honest, I was kind of looking forward to gloomy weather, but the sun was equally as nice.

I didn’t realize how similar this city was to New York, but I didn’t fall in love with it as quickly as I fell in love with New York. To me this city felt a lot “dirtier” and a lot more compact than the Big Apple. I just felt like I didn’t belong there. But I must admit, the city is still beautiful and I will definitely be making a trip back this summer. I really didn’t get to see as much as I would have liked, but it’s not an impossible trip to make so I will be going again.  

Until next time, San Francisco.